Indian Takeout and a Paradigm Shift
December 1st, 2010

I love the Indian restaurant near our house.  I love it for its proximity to us.  I love it for its creamy kormas and potent curries.  I love it for its lunch buffet.  And I love it for its very friendly (and kid friendly!) staff.  But last night I loved it for the gentle, but completely warranted, reprimand that the owner gave to me.

After running another errand I stopped in to pick up a quick supper for GAP and myself.  When I walked in all of the usual aromas hit me – a heady mix of nuts, curries, tomatoes, and naan.  I commented to the owner that his restaurant smelled even better than usual tonight.  I continued, saying that it must be because it’s so cold and miserable outside.  Then he surprised me.

In heavily accented English he reminded me that we had a long and beautiful fall this year, and that I should not complain about the cold.  He said, “You go home.  You eat your curry.  You have big fireplace.  Then you have hot coffee.  And the cold doesn’t seem so bad.”

And you know what?  He was right. 

Even when the days run short and the mercury drops and the sun hides behind thick clouds for days at a time I should not think about the way the winter season plagues me.  I should think about the things about it that delight me.  I love bundling up in pajama pants and hooded sweatshirts on winter evenings.  I love steamy mugs of hot chocolate (my Indian friend doesn’t know I’m not a coffee drinker…).  I love fires in fireplaces.  I love time spent curled up inside without having to make excuses as to why I’m not out enjoying the beautiful weather. 

There is indeed a season for everything.  And I should enjoy those seasons as they come.  We’ve barely shut the door on autumn.  To start pining for spring already just seems silly.  It’s time to enjoy winter for what it is: a season that moves slowly; a season that is marked by afternoons filled with books and movies; a season that begs us to lie fallow.  Spring will be here soon enough with its thunderstorms and crocuses.  But longing for those things now will only cause me to lose my appreciation for the blessings brought on by winter. 

I’m feeling better about winter already.  Happy December 1st!

11 Responses to “Indian Takeout and a Paradigm Shift”

  1. Aidan Donnelley Rowley @ Ivy League Insecurities Says:

    Isn’t it incredible how sage reminders are stuffed in the oddest spaces of our days? I happen to love winter so am not pining for spring, but there is an important message here. When we constantly anticipate the next thing, we cannot truly enjoy the moments now. And that is not a way to live. (I adore hooded sweatshirts and hot chocolate too. Yum!)

  2. anne Says:

    I like winter just fine through about January 31st, and then my affection starts to wear thin. Here in the Northwest, we really get a break from the dampness, so it’s easy to get frustrated. BUT–everything you say is exactly what I love about winter. In a way, it’s hibernation time, and I like the cozy feeling it brings with it. I will celebrate your post with a mug of coffee. Even though I probably would have had one anyway:)

  3. TheKitchenWitch Says:

    What a great way to look at things! There’s nothing like a nice curry in front of a fire, so perhaps he’s onto something. Happy December! If it’s any consolation, I struggle to maintain a happy outlook in the winter, too.

  4. Jeanna Says:

    I used to hate winter weather, so much so that I moved to Florida to get away from the cold. After several years of year round summer I learned to appreciate the changing seasons and the good things that come with each. My favorite things about winter are the busy holiday season followed by a slow January to recover, snowy days and how peaceful/beautiful everything is, and starting in early March I love the anticipation of spring!

  5. ayala Says:

    Indeed there is a season for everything. I try to live in the moment as much as possible,it all goes by so fast. I loved your visit yesterday! Enjoy winter with all the wonder that it brings!

  6. Cathy Says:

    It really is all about perspective. For everything we can find to complain about, there surely are two things for which to be grateful. Great post. Great reminder.

  7. Kristen @ Motherese Says:

    I don’t know what I appreciated more about this post: the wise reminder you share or the brief chance to live vicariously through your Indian food experience. (Needless to say, we don’t have any decent Indian food within an hour of here.)

  8. Rachel @ MWF Seeking BFF Says:

    This is a great post… but at this point I can’t stop thinking about how much I am craving Indian food. I’m guessing they won’t be serving any at the Chanukkah party I’m going to tonight. D’oh….

  9. Gale Says:

    Kristen – I didn’t grow up eating Indian food (and my parents refuse to believe me when I tell them how delicious it is), but I’ve grown to really love it as an adult. Come visit some time and we’ll go out for palak paneer!

    Rachel – Welcome to TDT, and thanks for commenting. I too get those cravings and just can’t shake them until they’re satisfied. Hopefully your party tonight will sate you with brisket and potato latkes instead!

  10. Jen @ Momalom Says:

    We all need those reminders sometimes, don’t we. Simple, obvious, true.

  11. Kathryn Says:

    I love this post because it nails such a bad habit: compliaining the second the weather changes. I live in southern California and inevitably after a hundred days of sunshine we will have a short streak of cool and wet and it’s the first thing you hear from people if it goes on for more than a couple of days..”Oh this weather!”.

    At least we’re having some weather!