Facing the Day
April 12th, 2012

His heart was in the right place.  Truly it was.  Nevertheless, I gave him the cold, hard diss.

In the summer of 2003 I started a new job more than a year after having been laid of from my previous one.  GAP and I were dating at the time and he wanted to spend the night at my place the night before I started work so that he could make me pancakes in the morning.  I turned him down.  While I certainly appreciated the thought, I was nervous, and all I really wanted was to go through my normal morning routine without any special occasion festivities throwing me off my game.

I thought of this memory yesterday when I was scanning headlines online and came across this article wherein various women commented via Twitter on the essential components of their morning routine.  It seems I’m not the only one who adheres to a morning routine with a certain religiosity.

Having kids is about the fastest way to put any adult routine on the chopping block.  But even as my morning routine has evolved to account for feedings, diaper changes, and temper tantrums I still hold certain aspects of my mornings sacred:  My breakfast.  My two-mile walk with our dogs.  And leaving the house with the bed made.  These things make me feel normal and in control of my day.

Most of the respondents to HuffPo’s survey said that coffee was the thing they couldn’t live without.  Others said exercise, a favorite body lotion, and a hug or kiss from a loved one.  But I think that what we include in our morning routine isn’t so important as the fact that we have one.  Mornings are hard for many of us.  Making each day up from scratch would be a disaster.  Having a routine allows us to operate on autopilot for a bit until we’ve rubbed the sleep out of our eyes and all pistons are firing.  And that routine also gives us a barometer of sorts for how the day is going.  This isn’t to say that a rough morning means that the rest of your day is doomed, or conversely that a good morning can’t be trashed pretty quickly.  But it gives us some context for the day.

There are certainly days when I wish for a different morning routine; one that includes sleeping until 7:30, eating breakfast at a leisurely pace while reading the news, and then going out for a long run while I’m still feeling fresh and energetic.  (When all my children are grown, perhaps I will have that…)  For the moment, though, my mornings are quite different.  Nevertheless, even if they are subject to influences outside of myself I know how important it is to take care of my own needs amidst the chaos.

I need my morning routine.  It keeps me upright and moving at a time when horizontal and sedentary seem much more appealing.  And if I can cross off my morning tasks one by one, then I can face the day knowing that I got it off to a good start.


Okay, so let’s pretend this is Twitter.  What are the aspects of your morning routine that you could never give up?

3 Responses to “Facing the Day”

  1. TheKitchenWitch Says:

    The shower is essential. If I don’t get my shower, I am a crank all day!

  2. BigLittleWolf Says:

    Coffee & writing. And if I had to give one of those up – believe it or not – it would be the coffee.

  3. Cathy Says:

    Coffee and shower I cannot live without. (40 characters.)